You and your partner may be madly in love and not bothered at all that you are from different races but there will always be people who will keep bringing it up and making it into a big issue. These are the people who are generally not so aware of different races and cultures and who haven’t really realized that society has evolved. They also have a lot of wrong notions about interracial dating and don’t know much about it. Here are a few things every person should know about biracial dating, which will help him or her become more aware.
1. IT’S NOT JUST BLACK AND WHITE
Most people associate interracial dating with black women white men meet. But race is much more than that- you can be an Asian dating a black guy or a Mexican dating an Asian etc. Don’t equate race with just color of a person’s skin. In fact you may find that a person may have ambiguous features that may be a combination of different races. It is important that first you learn all about interracial relationships and understand what their priorities are before you comment on them.
2. DON’T MAKE IT A FETISH
People may think that you have a fetish for a particular race when your date someone from that group. But love has got more to do with mutual understanding and admiration rather than a particular interest in a person’s features and skin color. If you find that you are only drawn to the person because of their race and find it new and exciting to date someone ‘different’, then maybe you are dating the person for the wrong reasons. If you are only fulfilling some fantasy of yours, be straightforward with the other person and tell them that this is not going to be a long-term affair.
3. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO SOLVE RACISM
Even though you do make a difference in society and show people that it is love that wins in the end, there will always be racist people who will keep thinking in a particular manner. You will not be able to solve racism by dating a person from a different race but you are encouraging more people to date interracially and thus helping the world move slowly towards racial equality.
4. PEOPLE DON’T DATE EACH OTHER TO VALIDATE THEMSELVES
People often assume that you are dating a person from another race so that you can feel validated and increase your status. They think that you harbor some kind of hatred towards your own race and are ashamed of it and thus date someone from another race so that you feel good about yourself. In any interracial relationship, the main criteria is always love and it is not right to assume that biracial partners choose each other because of their race.
These are a few things, people who are in biracial relationships as well as those who are not in biracial relationships should know about interracial dating.